Suzanne’s Blog

I get that question a lot. And I’ve had a few people asking me that too on my blog comments.

Yes I am Korean. But I’m also half-Singaporean…
No, I’m not mixed. Both my parents are Koreans.
Yes, I’m a PR here… have been for a long time now… but that’s not why I consider myself half-Singaporean.

I’m what Koreans popularly call “the 1.5 generation” or better known as 1.5G in other countries. It’s not a term commonly used here but basically it refers to people who relocate to a new country before or during their early teens. So, 1G refers to immigrants themselves (in this case, my parents although my family’s move is not strictly immigration) and 2G refers to the first generation born in the new country. (maybe my children if they’re born here?)

I guess, depending on the age of  relocation and the community you settle in, your ability to assimilate into a new culture would differ. My siblings and I have been very fortunate in that sense. I was only 5 when we first came to Singapore. I spent 10 wonderful years of my childhood in Singapore before returning to Korea, and most of my fondest memories come from Singapore. My siblings will probably echo that as well although they left Singapore early to study in the US. My parents meanwhile have been living here for over 20 years now!

Honestly I hardly remember what Singapore was like in the mid 80s. Maybe I was too young?

 
But I do treasure a few faint memories I have of our first home on Holland Road, my first English lesson (memories of this are like a silent movie - all I remember is my teacher talking in a language I didn’t understand and me just sitting there thinking “why does she keep pointing at the apple picture in the book?” ) and oh!… the ice-cream uncle and his bell!!! yum~ haha

I’m truly grateful to my parents for making Singapore their and my second home. Singapore was a big part of my growing up years. I made many great friends who I still keep in touch with today AND as my Korean friends frequently point out, benefited from the perfect environment to pick up two new languages relatively easily - English and Mandarin. (If you’ve heard about the English craze in Korea, you can probably empathize with what my friends are saying.) It’s something we take for granted living here but yes indeed, we are really privileged to live in a society that exposes us to different languages, different cultures and different experiences at an early age. I guess that’s why, after being away for so long, I’m back here in Singapore today. Because I have so many memories here and I want to be with my parents too. While away, I missed my laksa and hor fun… (well, now I’m missing my kimchi hehe)…  as well as my daily dose of lahs & lehs and mahs & mehs… but no no, not the durian… yet.

That’s partly how I justify myself that I’m really more Singaporean than many people think. You can disagree.

A Korean and 0.5 Singaporean… or as a “1.5er”… I recognize that I am in a unique situation. I belong to a generation straddling two countries and two cultures and am the bridge between my parent’s generation and my children in the future. Two countries, two cultures, two homes…

You know, I could have found myself sitting on the proverbial cultural fence, with one foot dangling over each side, trying to find my balance.

But I’ve been spared the difficult phase of acculturation and identification that many might have found themselves trapped in. And a big part has got to do with the environment/society I grew up in.

Because Singapore champions multi-culturalism and multi-lingualism and because she is one of the few cities which has successfully done so - she allows me to retain my cultural Korean heritage, be comfortable of who I am/where I’m from, although not a native here, and yet still makes me feel so at home. The best of two worlds indeed.

Happy Birthday Singapore in advance!… which reminds me…

Happy Birthday My Dearest Bro too in advance! - Love, Big sis in Singapore.

We see, hear, touch, taste and smell, thanks to our senses.

Out of the 5, which is the most important to you?  And if you had to give up one which would it be? Tough questions, I know.

Of the 5 senses, sight is the most important to me. It is certainly the one we rely on the most in our daily lives… and my job is very dependent on it too!

I can’t imagine a world without colours.

I can’t imagine a world without pictures.

Neither can I imagine not being able to read people’s faces, emotions and gestures. (Did you know that human communication is said to be 20% verbal and 80% non-verbal.)

I had a scare 4 years ago and a taste of what it’s like to have no vision. I was out for 2 weeks then (this story, perhaps another time…) and it was one of the most frustrating, scary and inconvenient times. After that experience, I really really started appreciating my sense of sight and have been making sure I take very good care of my eyes. I’d be devastated truly without my sight!

Honestly, I THINK I could manage without the sense of smell or even touch… but not being able to see and hear are BIG no-nos. I couldn’t live without hearing the voices of my loved ones too.

Of course, different people will have different takes and value different senses. I guess that would depend on what you do and what your life largely revolves around. Ask a cook and he’d say smell and taste are the most important. Ask somebody else (can’t think of who at the moment… a mother?) and she’d say touch is the most important.

Well, yesterday I was reminded again of how blessed and fortunate we are to have all our 5 senses. We ran a story on PTM about a little 5-yr-old girl who is blind but has an amazing talent! Her name is Yoo Ye Eun and I met her last week when she was here in Singapore for a performance. She can play the piano just by listening to a tune or song once!

For piano players out there, ok, maybe it’s not thaaat~ hard to figure out what the notes are for your right hand (the main melody)… but the left… oooh~ that’s oh so tricky!! Left hand’s the base… the accompaniment… d-i-f-f-i-c-u-l-t!! But she can pick that up too!

Her talent wows people, but that aside, Ye Eun’s story is touching… and her sweet nature and innocence, which shone through during the interview, make your heart ache at times… you’ll be even more mesmerized by her family story.

I’ll save myself words and just post the url of the video clip here on the blog… Meet Ye Eun and Connie too as the two angels take your breath away.

Hope you enjoy it…

Have you ever counted how many different types of smiles there are? Hmm… don’t try. You will probably lose count if it’s true that we’re capable of over 200 different smiles as some people claim…

A smile is a very powerful weapon… it can be used to ‘break the ice’. We’re usually drawn to smiling faces, especially those that radiate kindness and friendliness.

A smile sends out a very positive energy too… it’s contagious, truly! My 5-month-old niece came to visit from Korea recently. She’s an absolute darling, smiling most of the time. No matter how tired I was or how bad my day went - and I had a very bad day one time - her innocent smile would instantly brighten me up! I can’t think of anyone who wouldn’t smile at a baby for that matter, regardless of the mood he/she is in. ( I can’t resist, so I’m putting up my niece pics… with permission from my sister Isn’t she cute?!!)

Now, if the smile of an infant only several months old can have such a positive effect, imagine what ours can do.

Our smiles don’t just impact others, we feel good as well. There was a study done to prove a forced smile is better than no smile. Apparently, our brains don’t really know the difference between reality and pretense, so when you pretend to feel a certain way, say in this instance, smile… your brain will release endorphins (happy hormones) and you’ll feel better instantly. So that’s why they say keep smiling even if you don’t feel like it… the effects are far reaching…

There’s no conclusive study that tells us for sure how many smiles exist out there, but it’s safe to say many experts agree there are more than a dozen different ones. From genuinely happy to the more reserved, from the flirty flashes to the ‘I’m embarrassed’ grin. If you listen intently, you’ll see that smiling also affects how we speak… to the point that we can identify the type of smile based on sound alone! 

While a smile usually means something good, we know that sometimes they are not what they seem. No, not phoney… just more… complex shall we say? As Shakespeare’s character in Macbeth states ” There’s daggers in men’s smile.”… They’re definitely not the warm type.

Anyway, the reason why I brought up the subject on smiles is because I just interviewed a Japanese lady on PTM… Momoyo Torimitsu. She embarked on a very interesting project looking at how your profession determines the smile you put on everyday… and you wear it like a costume.

She talked about 4 different types of smiles:
- The confident but cautious businessman smile
- Warm and helpful “I’m at your service” hotel bellboy smile
- Fun and Friendly nursery school teacher smile
- Overzealous and excited entertainer smile

Of course, there are many more… Well, out of curiosity, Steve and I asked “So how would you categorize our smiles?”

We labeled ourselves ‘the genuine smile’.
What we failed to mention is that it’s a ‘necessary smile’ too.
Our smiles in the morning help us… well, it certainly does for me and I’m hoping it helps you too - to start your day on a positive and informed note.

So, what say you?