random thoughts…from steven

The online world is one that is still quite new to me. Yes, I’m fairly net savvy, but when it comes to having a virtual life, I lag far behind. 

Why do I say that? Well, I took a look at several blogs only to discover that I’m not your typical blogger. I mean, the typical blogger pretty much just writes about anything and everything with updates almost every day. Its their way of venting, sharing, speaking to the world and for many it’s also a way to keep others clued into their lives.

I’m not like that, you see, I don’t really want the world to know what I’m doing. At least not most of the time.

So if I had to pick, I’m more like the first group who uses my blog to give my opinions on things. But I’m really old school in the way I do it. I find it hard to write about something without first vetting it several times. So when I do write something, I tend to give it a lot of thought and I let the writing sit with me for a few days. For example, I wrote the first draft of this on Monday but only published it on Thursday.

Why? Because very often, at the spur of the moment we may write/ say things that we have not really thought carefully about. Coming back to that same thought a day later or even a few hours later often gives us a more balanced view. I think I’ve saved myself many times (especially with emails) where a few hours of “calming” time has allowed me to see things more clearly thereby avoid a “put foot in mouth” kind of disaster.

And it’s funny because each time I re-read this, I still make little changes here and there. I think it’s a sign of age…as they say with age comes wisdom or is that procrastination? hmm…I wonder…

If you notice, much of my ramblings and ravings have to do with the family and children these days. To those who don’t have kids, you won’t get it, but to those who have kids, you’ll know exactly where I am coming from.

You see, somehow once a little one enters your world, he or she kind of ”takes over”. Check out any friend who is a parent and you’ll find their kid on their facebook profile picture, on their computer desktop picture, it fills 18 of the 20 photos on their phone, half the photos in the house are of the kid looking pretty much to same (to you, but not to the parents)…you get the idea.

This is a journey all parents take as they discover life with the new “third” wheel in the equation. It’s just so exciting that it does overtake many other aspects of life. And you know what? I say embrace and enjoy every moment of it as you only get to experience it once. Even if you have more children, it’ll be different because each of them are so unique and your experience with them will also be unique. At least, that’s what I think or hope will happen.

So to all out there who might be thinking of having a kid, then I encourage you to simply go for it. There will be no good time, no stage of life when you are finally ready and no amount of preparation can get you fully ready for what happens. You just need to take each day as it comes and in a miraculous way, it all works out. As long as you love them, they’ll know it and they’ll love you back too!

And here are some parting words from a man by the name of P.D. James - “What a child does not receive, he can seldom later give.” So keep on giving, just keep on giving…and it will give you returns in ways you cannot begin to imagine!